His Mercy

"His Mercies Are New Every Morning"

A Thought

In this life we can not always do great things. But we can do small things with great love.." :) Mother Teresa

Prayer Quote

“I pray because I can't help myself. I pray because I'm helpless. I pray because the need flows out of me all the time- waking and sleeping. It doesn't change God- it changes me.”
― C. S. Lewis


I believe in the sun even when it's not shining. I believe in love even when I don't feel it. And I believe in God even when He is silent. (quote found on the wall of a concentration camp)

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Sunday, October 31, 2010

My Amazingly Perfect Taco

2 Corn tortillas cooked until crisp in a little oil
Head Country Salsa
Chicken Fajita Meat
Avocado Slices
Mexican Cheese

Saturday, October 30, 2010

Erika's New Doo

One lesson I learned.  When cutting hair, never say, "oops".... made my poor baby cry. LOL  I fixed the oops.... it was just a teeny oops... and we all recovered.  :)

Here is our "blooper picture".... I told Sarah, this should be titled, "Erika and Cousin It". :)

Our New Little Grand Guys!

I am so excited. Adoption papers have been signed for Joseph and Christoper!  We can now post pictures of our new grand sons. :)

Joseph, is the oldest. He is 4.  Christopher is 3.   Tim and Em are so blessed to have these little guys in their lives and so are we!  They are doing AWESOME!  The first weekend home, I remember Tim showing me his bruises from 2 very terrified little guys. He took it all in stride and they worked through it.  The boys have come so far! They are so sweet.
What an amazing blessing Adoption is in our family.  I am thrilled beyond words.

Congratulations Tim, Em, Joey and Bam-Bam!

 notice bam bam's stick. :)

such little cutie pies. :)

Reformation Party and Trauma Revisited

Last night, was our annual trip to the Reformation Party.   We had a wonderful time visiting with old friends and new friends.  There were more kids than we could count and even more people!  Food was everywhere as well as laughter and excitement and just good fellowship!

So what does that have to do with TRAUMA?  She is what it has to do with Trauma. :)
(My beautiful little Anna.  (posing with Sarah)  I love this picture they took of themeselves. :)
Love that they are cheeck to cheek, skin to skin..... close, and enjoying themselves together.)

7 years ago, Anna attended her first Reformation Party. She was so excited to go. She knew she would be bobbing for apples and doing a Pinata and even watching a movie! She knew there would be loads of kids to play with, and that mommy and daddy would be there with her.

It was an amazing time, because it was the first time we had acutally seen her really REALLY let her hair down, run around like a crazy 5 year old and just have the time of her life.  She forgot all about her fears and we watched her just be a kid. It was a wonderful sight.

BUT.... when it was time to leave, she said her good byes and we got into the car to go home.  She started to kick the back seat, she became sullen, her color changed, her eyes changed and she began to scream.... "I hated that party! I hated those people! I didn't have any fun! I didn't like it! I don't want to go back!  and she raged on.
As a parent, it is hard to hear those words, esepecially when you know they aren't true, and you WANT to say, "YES YOU DID!" I SAW YOU HAVING A GOOD TIME!"...... but it wasn't about that.
It wasn't about her lying, or being bratty or rebellious.  It was all about TRAUMA.  It was all about how she felt about herself.

You see, she didn't think she DESERVED to have a good time. She didn't think she was WORTHY of a good time. So she decided to sabotage it. To get rid of it. She had to get rid of the "evidence". :)

At first we said, "We saw you having fun."  But it only enraged her. So we remained quiet.

When we got home,  we took her to the rocker and she was fiesty mad.  We went through the relaxing things... take some breaths etc.  And I began to sing to her as always.  Then, when I felt she was calm enough, I was making eye contact with her and said,
"Sweetie, it is OK to have fun!  It is OK for YOU to have a good time. You DESERVE to have a good time. You are precious." And I continued to speak into her TRUTH.

She started to cling to me and then she began to sob.  And she sobbed for a while. It was a mournful sob, and it was deep and wrenching.  And it  was healing.

She looked up and said, "Mama, I'm sorry. I really did have fun. I did like those people. I really did!"
I said, "I know." It is ok.  And then she fell asleep.

That folks is what Trauma does to a child. It robs them of their joy.  If we recognize it, we can get them out of that "negative feedback loop", and place them right back into childhood, in all its wonder and discovery. We can help to place them back into safety. We can help to get them to the safety and love they so crave, yet are so terrified to embrace.

After a few of these patterned responses, which I like to call, "Rebooting the ole' hard drive", they will start to recognize their own fears and begin to embrace the new life as a gifted flower, and not a thorn that will just continue to hurt them.

I will never forget that first Reformation Day Party for our Anna.  Because, it makes me SO enjoy watching her at all the ones we have attended since, and the one we enjoyed so much last night.
                     She has conquered the wild beast of trauma that held her captive for so long.

On the way home, we heard all the exciting news and what a great time everybody had.
And that, is music to a mama's ears. :)

Friday, October 29, 2010

Sweetie Sarah

Our sweetie Sarah has really been enjoying "Buildabearville".
Buildabearville is an interactive place to go and enjoy doing activities. She LOVES being a waitress.
It is fun because other children play at the same time in a sort of "virtual" world. So one child somewhere in the U.S. may be a customer and she can be the waitress...
It seems to be a very safe environment. She said she also like shopping.  She gets paid, goes shopping, etc.
We don't have a video game system, and this particular site is one that is daddy approved. :)

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Glue Sticks Are For Gluing

I have heard more than a few times last year and this year, folks are using GLUE STICKS; the larger foot long kind;  you know the ones we get for our crafty glue guns??  They are using them to "spank" their children.

I'm sorry, but GLUE STICKS ARE FOR GLUING things. They are meant for fun family projects.... Not this!
So, I googled it..... and sure enough, just as I suspected once again.... there is a group of people on the internet recommending glue sticks be used as "a rod of correction".

If you believe in spanking. Fine. This post isn't about that. Spanking vs. not spanking will be an eternal debate in this country.   This post is about  common sense and not harming children. 

WHAT IS GOING ON????    We are such a society of extremes.
I read several posts such as: "the liberal left who wants to keep you from any form of disciplining of your children", and then,  "the extreme fundamentalist right who wants to beat their children for pleasure"......  Those are really near quotes from some of the wesites and blogs I went to.
Frankly, I think both of those extremes are emotionally charged statements that don't solve anything and certainly don't lead to somebody with an opposing view to soften their ideas.

(I won't send you on a wild goose chase, just google for yourself, it will keep you up all night)
Keep in mind these names: Michael and Debi Pearl,  The Ezzos, Richard Fugate . There are others.
Their books have been around awhile.

  I read Mike and Debi Pearl's book a long time ago, when their name kept popping up, and when I kept hearing about how selfish babies are and how they need to be trained from newborn not to demand being fed, held, etc. ????? I'm serious,  I got totally freaked out.  The Ezzo's are regurgitated Pearls in a nicer package, but the message is basically the same. 

One of the problems with these people is they prey on insecurity, guilt and fear. They tell you if you don't do things THEIR way, which is OF COURSE, God's way, then your kids will grow up to be unrepentant  ax murderers and it will all be your fault!  That is a basic synopsis.  In fact, I did a book review one time and was shocked at the venom, just because I dared to disagree with a certain book.
Of course, my soul's eternal state was in question, all because I didn't agree with the person's book!

 People Please!  "Train Up Your Child in the way He should go and when he is old he will not depart from it." IS NOT an etched in stone command that guarantees your child's sure salvation.  No man comes to the Lord unless the SPIRIT draws.
If you are going to take that Proverbs passage literally, then you will have to take the entire poetic book literally and make it all fit into a neat little theological box.....It won't, because it wasn't meant to be literal.  The word used for "in the way he should go", is talking about a child's strength or "bent"...... meaning..... if he is great at carpentry, teach him the skills, and when he is old, he won't depart from being a carpenter, or a plummer, or a musician or a seamstress..... fill in the blank!  But it is just an observation.

After 30 plus years of hearing this type of stuff...... ENOUGH! I am sad to see young parents drawn into the same illegetimate garbage of the day. I am sad to see them saddled with guilt,burdens and fear, that if they don't do things just like so and so, their child will not grow up to serve God.   IT IS NOT TRUE!  There is NO scripture that says this. 

Scripture says CLEARLY, "He who does not DISCIPLINE his son, HATES his son!"  THIS IS A TRUE FACT..... but what is discipline? That is the million dollar question.... Sadly, for many, all it means is punishment, and punishment is NOT = to  discipline.

And that's all I have to say.

Amputee Humor for Fall

 Our little squirrel Erika has been stowing away Acorns in the bottom of her foot! LOL

It  took Anna, and Erika's pocket knife to get the little culprit out and back out to the real squirrels. LOL

That Girl Is A Hat Makin' Machine!

Wow! She is doing so well!  I had the honor of showing her how to make the little puffy ball on the top.
In return, I want her to show me how to knit! LOL

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

My New Awesome Sign

Here is the last sign I bought. :)

I don't know that I made any money, but I wonder if I can with this one??? :)

Gluten Free Black Bean Pumpkin Bread

I'm at it again with those black beans! I need to come up with some good recipes for Thanksgiving, so I tested one out today. Mike says for me not to change a thing, he likes it as it is...... His 2 customers agreed.... I was thinking it could use 1/4 cup more sugar, but they say no, so here it is!
 I made 1 large loaf and 4 mini loaves....with this recipe.  It can make 2 large loaves.

 Gluten Free Black Bean Pumpkin Bread

3/4 cup dried black beans (soak overnight, drain, add water and cook until very tender)
then puree'.
1 1/4 cups Rice Mix Flour ( I like the EnerG brand)
(it contains Rice Flour and Baking Powder)
1 15 oz can organic gluten free pumpkin
1 1/2 cups sugar
2 eggs
2 Tsp Baking powder
1 Tsp Baking Soda
1/2 Tsp salt
1 Tsp Cinnamon
1 Tsp Nutmeg
1/2 Tsp ground cloves
1 TLB Vanilla Extract
1/2 cup rasins
1/2 cup of chopped walnuts (or your favorite nut)

Mix Pumpkin, beans, sugar eggs and vanilla together making sure eggs are well beaten and beans are mixed very well. 
Add flour, soda, baking powder, salt, and spices Mix WELL

Spray baking pans before use to keep from sticking.
This will make 2 large loaves or 8 mini loaves or a combo of both

I cooked it in a pre heated oven of 350º  for about 35 minutes for the smaller loaves
 and 55 minutes to one hour for the larger loaf.   OR until cake tester comes out clean and when you touch the top it springs back.

Remove from oven and let sit for a few minutes and then remove from pans while still warm.
Serve with fruit butter, or plain butter, warm or cold.... store in air tight container.


1 stick of butter
1/2 cup powdered sugar
1/2 cup thawed frozen strawberries
Blend and store in fridge to use on holiday breads.

A Picture Is Worth 1,000 Words

A Cyber Friend was talking about her son, and some observations she had made.  She got me to thinking.... a dangerous thing, I know. :)

We have had some pretty interesting experiences with our girlies.  Some of which we "caught" onto, and some that the light went on at a later time.

Anna has graciously given me permission to put her drawings up for you to see. She is such a neat kid. She said, "If it will help somebody, go ahead."  "Besides, I googled myself, and now I'm famous!" ROFL!

Anna was adopted at the age of 5. She had been in a series of Foster Homes during her toddler years that took a huge toll on her little life.  I am so glad that we took the PRIDE TRAINING classes, because those classes described our sweetie to the T.   She was an infant emotionally, she was a 5 year old girl, and she was also in some areas of her life, very street smart and going on 30.  We had to figure out who we were dealing with, and sometimes it would change in the same conversation. :)

I have always provided blank paper, scissors, glue, glittler, markers, colors, beads and all sorts of wonderful messy things for my children to use, to create and to imagine.  Of course the Girlies are no exception, so one of the most exciting parts to getting ready for Anna to come, was getting all that messy stuff out once again!
I am no artist by a long shot, but I love seeing little ones create.

To my shock: With all she had to use..... This is what she drew.
The picture on the left, was her first one.  There was no reason to it, there were no real letters, there was no form.... just scribbling.  I have countless pictures like this, where I said, "Let's draw a goat!" "Let's draw a house!"  They all looked the same.  No color, no reason, just chaos.
It made me cry.
Her little life must have been so crushing for her. She was not able to express in the most basic form what was in her mind.
She also couldn't jump on one foot. She couldn't skip, like a little girl would.... there was MUCH she couldn't do.  She sure could scream! :)  She didn't know how to communicate at first. She hadn't been taught.
Communication is so important and we communicate in many ways; through the arts, through speech, through writing, through emotions.  She had learned the most basic infantile form of communication. The one she was born with; her lungs. But she had not learned anything else. She was very much an infant or toddler, in a 5 year old's body.

After working with her for a few months: Her drawings IMPROVED!   I started to notice a much more visual picture.  And not long after, she started to draw faces. I was very glad they were happy faces. :)
And then about a year later:  We got a picture of FAMILY!
I was very happy to see that she saw herself as important.  She drew Katie really small, because she didn't live with us.  The guy on the left was Marcus (our youngest son).

And then, she started being able to draw some nature:
Notice, she still wasn't really adding much color to anything?  She had plenty of opportunity to, but her world was still very small.

I have loads of pictures and artwork she has done over the years. She is not the best of artists, that isn't the point of this post.  But she has made HUGE strides in artistic expression! And I am so proud of her.
It also tells me that she has healed in so many ways!
She prefers to design barbie clothes, and she loves to dress up and design outfits. She has an artistic flare for writing too.
But here are a couple of her recent drawings..... Note the COLOR!!!!

Anna also has a real knack for writing.  She still has many issues with Spelling. She is working on it, and has come a long way!
But here is an excerpt from a book she is writing.... I am amazed at her ability to write, yet, she cannot spell well.

On 10/27/10 10:43 AM, Anna Minich wrote:
> It was cold and seemed like it was about to rain. As Hannah walked along
> the road, she heard a truck rumbling a little way behind her.So she steeped
> to the side of the road as the truck pulled in to view. When it reached her
> it stoped.
> And the driver asked "You need a ride miss"? Hannah hesitated she had tried
> to hitch hick but every time a driver stoped and asked it was always a
> young man so she had declined. Then she noticed a women about the same age
> as the driver
> in there 30s or so. So she agreed." Hop in dear it's about to rain" The lady
> said kindly.Hannah got in the back and they drove on.
> "What is your name dearee"? "Hannah Harrison whats yours?" Josefina
> Cobbler my Friends call me Joe you can do the same, And this is my husband
> Peter Cobbler." You can call me peat. "
> "Now whats a pretty thang like you hitch hicking on the road in this
> weather"? I'm going to the golf." Hannah ancerd. "Whear are you from?"
> "Canada." "Do you have any family"? "Only a brother back in Canada."
> "Hut oh miss it's raining to hard to take you to Town. How 'bout you comen'
> to our house till mooring. well i don't want to in- pose.No no you won't be
> imposing , the lord gave me a big house with Lot's of room.
> Hannah gave it some thought... they seem nice...um. Well just until
> moring. Hannah ancerd..When Hannah arrived at The Cobblers house,She noticed
> that Mr.cobbler was not exzadgerating it was a big house. With a big front
> porch,and a swing.
> Better come in side Heaven knows what you could catch in a storm like
> this.. Miss cobbler led her to a big room witch a table in tha middle ,And a
> stove. THIS is the kicthan.
> You what hear and I'll go get a room and a bath ready. just make your self
> comterbull.Said miss cobbler as she walked away her hi heals clicking on the
> Wood floor.Hannah could not stand to where hi heals.
> Hear it is and your bath is ready. um leave your clothes by the door so i
> can clean them.Oh but I can't let you do that. Oh fiddle sticks I have one
> of those new finagled washing meshene and I've been meaning to use it .OK
> if you insist.When Hannah got in the water she felt the water rush over. In
> her orpang the soweres had been short and cold.

It will be 7 years in December, and  she is   such a lovely young lady. :) Her thoughts are deep and she is so sweet.  I am so thankful that she is able to now express herself, keep a journal, draw her favorite things, write a book if she wants to....... She is living life. I cannot take away the past, or what happened to her years ago; but I sure do have hope for the future, and that she can truly LIVE her Life in a good way!

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Saturday, October 23, 2010

Happy Saturday Activities

It has been really quiet here all day. I have been blogging, writing, cooking, and cleaning. I even went Christmas Shopping! shhhh!
If my girlies are reading this STAY OUTTA MY CLOSET! :)

So, what have those girlies been doing?

I just love it how Anna and Sarah have been playing Barbies and Paper Dolls, literally for HOURS after they finished their chores. We have this great front porch and they have been playing out there all afternoon.  I can hear their music playing on 94.9 KLTY, the thunder and rain pouring, and little voices pretending all sorts of things.  I love how they are still "little girls" and "big girls" at the same time.
Tweenies is such an interesting age group.

And then Miss Erika has been busy out in the shoppe helping Daddy.... She LOVES to help Daddy and he Pays her WELL....

She also loves to knit. She started knitting baby hats last year, but had scarves to finish...... She had an unfinished baby hat, and I found her on the computer learning what she forgot. She amazes me! So, she finished THAT baby hat, and is now working on another one!
So what has your Saturday been like?   I am really proud of Sarah who played outside on the porch in spite of the Tornado Watches and Warnings, Thunder and Lightening, Heavy Rain and Wind........ (the Warning was one county over, but for her, THIS IS A BIG DEAL!) Typically this begins alligator tears!
This time she just asked, "When you were in that tornado, what was it like in the closet?" I answered her, and she went back out to play! YEA!

Holidays Full Steam Ahead!!!

In the process of cleaning, I decided since it is getting closer to holiday time, I'd go ahead and start decorating..... I have these shelves in the kitchen that needed dusting and polishing.  So, I just took everything down and got it ready for the Holidays.  I know it is a little early, but.... before I know it, it will be a little late.  So, I decided to just do it now.

Here are the 3 shelves in the kitchen. :)  The white and red dishes were my old Christmas Dishes.
I had stored them at a friend's house. When they were moving, the box dropped and they ran them over with a truck. LOL This is all that remained. My friend was so sweet. She went and purchased the other Christmas dishes, which I love too.  :)  She really didn't have to, but she did, and I am glad. They don't make these any more that I know of.

I really do love the Holidays, and look forward to making a Ginger Bread House Village with Sam and the girls and any other grand kiddos that might be stopping in and out. :)

Oh... btw- for those of you that are Gluten Free..... this might excite you!  I couldn't believe my eyes!
Gluten Free Clam Chowder!!!!!

Long Term Life Lessons vs. Short Term Control

I have been pondering the idea of long term life lessons, verses short term, external control for many years. 
I was raised in a short term control type of environment.  Maybe it was more like a long term control environment, lol.... but the control was simply "external".    As long as we "looked" like we were behaving, as long as we didn't embarrass anybody, and as long as we didn't step out of line.... our hides were saved.   It had nothing to do with what was going on in our hearts.  And believe me, there was A LOT going on, and it wasn't good.
Sin natures are alive and well in all of us, parents and children alike.... But if we as parents only look at something our child is doing externally and then squash the evidence, we never get to the heart. In fact, many times we squash the heart in the process and cause spiritual and emotional damage to our children.

It isn't easy being a parent. It is HARD.  Mike and I were talking about this subject the other day.  As we were talking, he brought up some Men in Scripture that God called Righeous.  
Job:  As a father, Job interceded and made sacrifice for his children.
Joseph:  Joseph sought to put Mary away secretly, lest her shame be exposed of being pregnant before marriage.....  God said he was Righteous.
And then, there is our Heavenly Father:  who is patient and kind not wishing for anybody to perish. 2 Peter 3:9 and He is tender, telling the disciples to let the children come to him, for such is the Kingdom of Heaven.
Jesus patiently called His disciples "children" throughout his ministry and carefully taught them what He wanted them to know.  He was patient with them. He was kind with them. 
When Peter said, "NO!" He didn't get mad at him and chastise him. He simply spoke to him "Truth".

That lesson of truth that stuck with Peter, after the cock crowed 3 times, was a life lesson He was allowed to live.  He wasn't prevented it.

I think as parents, sometimes we forget that some of the best lessons our children can learn, are "life lessons".  They are lessons they learn from living, with our gentle guidance along with that teaching moment.  We are there, just as our heavely Father is there, with our arms opened wide to catch our little ones, offering them comfort and wisdom.
However, if we teach them to be afraid of us, or to hide from us, because of our own sinful harshness, that lesson may never be learned, or worse yet,  they may harbor resentments in their lives because they have been too externally controlled.

I can think of many examples in our own lives where we have done things very wrong, and also done things right.
But one of the benefits that can come from doing things wrong, is it can be made into a right, by acknowledging our wrong doing to the child we feel we didn't listen to, or brushed off, or treated too rashly.... and relationship can be restored.  Where forgiveness lives and reigns, it is a two way street!
We forgive and our children learn to fogive us of our own failures too! :)

Parenting for long term goals is not an easy task.  Sometimes it brings us under harsh criticism of others, especially if we don't think the same. 
I can give an example of my famous Joe. (Sorry Joe to always pick on you, but you are so interesting!) :)

When Joseph was 2 and 3, he was a miniature terrorist. LOL  No, really, I don't think I have ever met another child yet, who was as intense as my sweet Joe.  And I do mean SWEET!  He was such a complicated little guy.  He was rash and brash... he had a loud booming voice, and a horridly short temper.  He was also tenderhearted to  the extreme.  It took me a while to realize this.  It was through the help of my sweet mother in law that we figured him out.... we would both just sit back in awe and study him. LOL 
If I were to tell him no-no.... he would flip, literally go ballistic.  So, if I were to say "MOMMY SAID NO-NO~! to counter the ballistic, it went to out right RAGE!  It wasn't rational.  There were those who told us, "you better get control of that kid or he's going to ......" (fill in the blank)

It wasn't that we weren't in "control" of him. He was OUT of control!  I didn't permit him to be disrespectful.... he WAS.  I didn't say, "come over here and hit mommy". He just did!  And, he kicked gramma!  I'm talking OUT OF CONTROL.....

I was scared. Really scared.  And where do we go when we are scared? To the Lord.  I began to study and study, because the direction I was headed, I didn't like.  I didn't like that all of the books I was reading were saying, if they don't listen the first time, spank and then spank again, and then again and again and again and again and again..... and then.... well, you get the picture.   
I actually thought to myself.... good heavens if I followed what was in this stupid book, he'd die before he gave in...... and frankly, I think there are those out there who actually follow those books.

Instead, as I began to seek the Lord in prayer and scripture, I was drawn to Proverbs:  "A SOFT answer turns away wrath.... Was I giving a soft answer?  
I also started listening to myself. I was impatient with him.   Love is patient and kind. I wasn't being patient or kind. I was being impatient and grouchy.

The Lord gently convicted my heart, and I began a new way of thinking.  And I THREW OUT those stupid books that everybody raved about.

Instead I looked at him LONG TERM.  What is he like? What does he love? What is his "bent"?
I began to work with the positives, and the things we were not ready to deal with, we put aside.
He was NOT ready for Sunday School. He couldn't sit still, and I felt it was a terrible injustice to expect from him something he couldn't succeed in.   SO, I did the unthinkable. I pulled him out of Sunday School.  Oh you should have heard the grumbles.  I didn't care. There were the same people thinking those books were great stuff.

I didn't care anymore. I felt like I was in a place of transition. Either our son was going to learn long term life lessons that would carry him through, or I would settle for short term control to please others, and he would learn nothing and then, when he was older, there would be no more constraining him, and he would go his own way. 

What I found, was a simply delightful  little boy, who thought outside the box, and needed mommy to hold his hand on his journey and help him be brave enough to try new ideas and ways of thinking.

I had to teach him that it wasn't the end of the world if he couldn't figure something out, that it was ok.
He had to learn this manually with lots of extra love and understanding.  Rejection of his frustrations, only made him more frustrated. Understanding his fears, caused him to come to me for comfort. And by me being understanding,  he exposed what was in his heart.
It was no longer hidden.... not like what I hid as a child. 

I hid my anger and frustrations, and they were never allowed to be understood or shown. It took a long time to unravel all of that, and I didn't want that for my own children.

Over time, he learned, and by 4 was able to actually go into Sunday School and sit through a class and be a very obedient little boy.  :) YEA! Success!

Over time, those life lessons proved to be different than with our other boys. He needed to have freedoms to explore certain things that our other boys never were challenged with.   He needed to read books that I would not want him to read, but for HIM they were necessary.  So, we trusted him.  But we knew, because of the relationship established, that he would come to us and talk with us about his hearts quandries and struggles. 
He learned Long term life lessons through relationship, that could never have been accomplished with short term external control.

I am not advocating out of control children. Quite the contrary. What I am saying is that bringing our children under control, is best done by teaching them "self control", not by teaching them fear of retribution.   
Yes, there were times when we had to leave a store and go home, because we needed to let him know that his behavior was not acceptable.  He needed to know what was expected before hand, and he knew he had to comply. There were no questions.   This helped him so very much to understand his boundaries.  It was a long term life lesson.  If I don't obey in a store.... I go home. period. There was no yelling, no spanking, no lecture.  Just a simple, we need to go home because you are not following what we talked about.  (if other kids were with us, yes they were disappointed, but I encouraged them we would go out again soon)

What is funny about that is it happened 1 time for him.  It happened 1 time for Tim, and not at all, that I can recall, for Marc or Chuck.    That is not such a bad record for taking four little boys out often and expecting them to stay with me and not grab things, demand things or cry.  And especially not bad for a little guy who was deemed hyperactive. 

When I started to see my parenting as a long term lifestyle, instead of being a glorified police officer,
I really began to enjoy the precious gifts that God had given me through my children.  Those gifts came with thorns, and pains, and tears, and frustrations, to bring about a precious work in my own heart that brought me closer to my Savior.  I could see that I was all those things that my children were, and my precious Heavenly Father, patiently and gently, prodded me to long term life lessons through his continual guidance. He didn't crush me. He didn't burden me with a heavy load. He CARRIED my load. 
When we help our children carry their loads, their burdens, thier struggles, then release them, and learn those long term life lessons, and eventually, we show them who will continue to carry those burdens for them, and we place their hands into the hands of the one who will hold them forever.

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Holiday Gluten Free Fudge

 Hevel Asked if I  had  a Gluten Free Fudge Recipe:
This is the one I have always made, but just use Gluten Free Chocolate chips or bar chocolate instead of normal and viola!
 Christie's Kitchen Holiday Fudge
1 1/2 cups granulated sugar
2/3 cup  Evaporated Milk (the small can)
4  tablespoons butter or margarine
1/4 teaspoon salt
1 1/2 small jars, or 1 large jar of marshmallow creme (Kfraft says gluten free on label)
12 oz of semi sweet chocolate
1 TLB vanilla extract

1 cup of finely chopped pecans
1/2 cup rasins
1 cup finely shredded coconut
On medium heat, stir butter, milk, marshmallow creme, salt, and bring to a boil.
BOIL 5 FULL minutes. (use a timer from first boil to 5 minute mark, it does matter)
Stirring Constantly
Remove from heat, stir in chocolate.
Stir in Vanilla
then stir in any extras.....
or plain is good too. :)

Spread mixture immediatly into an 8x8 pan and refrigerate  Keep tightly covered after cooling.

I have been making this for 30 years.

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

IMPROVED Black Bean Chocolate Cake

I have been tweaking this recipe and came up with a really good one.  This is much better than the one I posted here

Gluten Free Black Bean Chocolate Cake  
3/4 cup black beans, soaked overnight, then cooked till very tender and drained well.
3 eggs
1/4 cup plus 1 TLB canola oil
1 1/2 cups sugar
3/4 cup unsweetened cocoa powder
1 TLB vanilla
1/2 tsp salt
1 teaspoon of baking soda
1 teaspoon of baking powder
1/2 cup EnerG Rice Mix (a mixture of rice flour and sweet rice flour) (available in a box)
 (1/2 cup chopped walnuts and 1/2 cup miniature chocolate chips) optional!

Mix black beans and oil, adding 1 egg at a time until beans are mixed VERY well.
You can use a food processor if you have one to mix beans and oil and turn into a paste.

Add Vanilla
Stir well

Add all dry ingredients and mix WELL.
Add optional ingredients last and stir

Spray  a bundt pan with non stick spray and spread batter into pan

Cook at 350º preheated oven until done..... around 35 minutes or until tester comes out clean.

This one turned out REALLY good. My husband's employee is a rather picky eater and he liked it.
Then we told him what was in it, and he finished it! LOL

Now I need to come up with a glaze....

Monday, October 18, 2010

Ya-Ya The Wood Splitter

We are having a lot of fun with this wood splitter.... :)

The Big Omlette Surprise

The other day we pulled THIS out of the Chicken coop.  I am still thinking ouch thoughts for whatever dear layed it. :

So here is what was inside! It was a double yoker! I thought it could have been triple considering its size!

I scrambled it up and cooked it in a jiffy!
And Here is the Happy fellow who gets the prize! 

BTW- still loving using my new pretty dishes instead of paper plates. :)
Somebody really needs to get that guy some different clothes! OR we just need to take his pictures on Sundays. :)

Saturday, October 16, 2010

Wonderful News of the Miraculous Kind

Our Son and Daughter In Law Tim and Emily, have been married for over 8 years. They have wanted a family for a long time, and the blessing of two little boys became a reality in June. Our sweet little grand sons Joseph and Christopher are amazing.

Well, God has seen fit to bless Joseph and Christopher with a baby brother or sister! :)
And Tim and Em will be parents once again!  We are so excited for all of them!
We give God all the Praise and Glory!  Thank You Lord for Answered Prayer.

I love it how the brothers are so sweet to each other! :)

Mike and the Giant Egg

He has claimed it for his breakfast on Monday! :)
The Hen's are doing MUCH better since we had a little "stew pot" talk with them. :)

You Are Still Holy