Yep, I 'm talking about me again.
Our sweet little Grand baby Ilse, had to have surgery to put a G-Tube in yesterday. I talked to the kids and they were upset that she was not getting her pain medication on time and she was crying. A nurse came in and said, "She's fine."
I cannot tell you how that made me feel. It brought back memories of Tim, laying there in horrible pain and nurses coming in and saying, "He's fine". Well, HE WASN'T FINE! He was in Pain! I finally went and found the hospital director who was in his office studying. I knocked on his door and said, "Is it normal for a 6 year old to be writing in pain without the ability to even fall asleep?" He said NO it is NOT! I asked him to come with me, because I couldn't get anybody to listen to me.....
The mistakes made on my Tim were awful.
He had Bilateral Femoral Osteotomy aductor releases and was in a body cast with his legs spread wide apart. He was swollen, even his hair hurt.
When they completed the surgery, his physician FORGOT to order pain meds for when he woke up.
(This is like taking a jack hammer to your hips, screws, metal plates and all, and then just waking you up.) We could hear him screaming from the general surgery waiting area.... "My legs have been cut off!"
Poor baby. They then put him in an ambulance and took him back to Carry Tingly Hospital in NM, and it was about 3 more hours before they got ANY meds into him at all. I was in shock. They gave him his meds finally, but it didn't seem to make much difference. Finally, after the 2nd day, it was found out that the meds given to him were for that of a 6 month old baby, not a 6 year old child!
Once they got his meds corrected, on the 3rd day, he was much better. He had nightmares and cried everytime he heard an ambulance siren for a LONG time. He still remembers.
My personal opinion.... my son had Cerebral palsy and there are those in the medical community (they know who they are) who would just as soon see people with disabilities disappear.
We have seen it, heard it, felt it, for years. It doesn't change. There are always those with hard hearts who DO NOT CARE..... they fail to see that they have flaws..... and think that they should have the best of care no matter what! They are also the ones who are indifferent to children with special needs.
What do I say to them? Nothing. What do I think? When I get past feeling angry....(another bag)
I pity them. Because there is a chance that someday, they will be a position of neediness. It only takes one accident. One stroke.... One diagnosis.... and boom, you are in diapers, in need of somebody to feed and care for you...!" And guess what..... you may wind up with one of those folks who think YOU don't deserve to live.
“I pray because I can't help myself. I pray because I'm helpless. I pray because the need flows out of me all the time- waking and sleeping. It doesn't change God- it changes me.”
― C. S. Lewis
― C. S. Lewis
I believe in the sun even when it's not shining. I believe in love even when I don't feel it. And I believe in God even when He is silent. (quote found on the wall of a concentration camp)