They coo at her and adore her and laugh with her and try to get her to interact and smile, and she responds with total and complete trust!
(I could kick myself for not getting a video of what I am trying to describe)
As Ivy and I were talking, I mentioned, "Look how intent she looks at you!" And then I told her how it made me think of the girls, and how ALL THOSE YEARS passed, and they had NOBODY to coo at them and love on them.
Ivy's reply was, "I know!" "I think about that too!"
And then we told Olivia what a fortunate baby she was to have such loving parents to dote on her. :)
Today, as I was driving with Anna to the grocery store, there was a service type announcement on the news radio. They were encouraging parents to read to their babies, talk to them in full sentences and sing to them. :) I thought, "That is a good announcement!" But they went further:
"This is the sound of a baby's brain wave who does not have a parent read to them, or sing to them..... and it was one of those flat notes..... that you might think of when a signal goes out. And then they said, "this is the sound of a baby's brain wave who has parent's who sing and read and talk to them. The signal was making all sorts of sounds and bouncing around.....
I felt tears well up in my eyes. I know it sounds silly , as this was a simple commercial announcement. But in our home, and family, we have 4 little girls who had that flat brain wave for YEARS! And it makes me rejoice in AWE that they are doing so wonderfully after YEARS of neglect and abuse.
I also felt tears of joy for Miss Butter, and all of my other grand children and my boys who DIDN'T suffer that type of abuse or neglect. I am thankful for each of my adult children and their wonderful wives; my other adult children who are WONDERFUL parents!
And finally, I felt a sense of gratitude that I get to be mom to such wonderful girls. I am so thankful that I can love on them and coo at them and make them smile, even at the ages they are now. I am thankful that they have each been placed into our home to be LOVED, unconditionally, and forever. :)
There is hope to recoup the lost time that our children endured. Those years of silence, rocking in cribs, being neglected and hungry; there is hope for connection, healing and LOVE. RAD can HEAL. PTSD can HEAL.... FEAR can HEAL. YES IT CAN!
OH YES THERE IS HOPE! DON'T DOUBT IT FOR ONE MINUTE.... :)
It is REAL.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Fear Not! For I have redeemed youI have called you by your name, you are mine
When thou pass through the water, I will be with you
And through rivers they shall not overflow
When you pass through the fire you shall not be burned
Neither shall the flame kindle upon thee
For I am the Lord thy God!Isaiah 43