Anna works very hard with Bella using BCLC. :) She has learned well!
Teaching our children, instructing , discipling and encouraging them are all part of the Art of Discipline.
As Parents, it is THE biggest thing we will do to influence the next generation. We are the gatekeepers of the future! It is a HUGE responsibility to bring up our little ones to be productive, well adjusted people.
And, NOT ONE CHILD comes with an instruction booklet attached. NOT ONE!
Working through the maze of books available on the market, and techniques offered for every situation can be dizzying and confusing!
One book says "Don't give an inch or they'll take a mile!" This kind of book is big on high control! Another one says, "Why do you insist on bedtimes and curfews?" It is the opposite of high external control.
Then there are the books for those who want to raise their children in the Lord that are MISGUIDED nonsense and make parents feel FULL OF FEAR and CONDEMNATION because they put a child's salvation in the hands of the parent, where it NEVER CAN BE; because Salvation is of the Lord! These books say "Do it this way or you are not obeying God."
I have read numerous books and have found that each kind of book has something to offer. But RARELY do you find help in dealing with extreme situations, adoption issues that are outside of the realm of "norm" (or are they?) or post trauma issues.The one book, that I trust the VERY most is my Bible. It is after all, God's word. :)
I have found more loving instruction on patience and kindness in reading the word than in any book I have ever read.
God DEMONSTRATED HIS love towards us in sending His son. Jesus Christ was the PERFECT REPRESENTATION of God. He "tutored" us and showed us what a loving life should look like. He was full of compassion! He had all the emotions that we do. EVERY ONE, including Anger. But HE did not sin.
He carefully walked his disciples towards life, instructing them all along the way. And in 3 years... THREE.... He influenced the world for eternity. Whether you believe Jesus is the Son of God or not,
He has influenced generations for over 2,000 years!
That is pretty incredible for a man who's ministry only lasted 3 years!
So how did Jesus instruct the disciples? He told them stories, and talked with them as they walked along the way. He spent many, MANY patient hours teaching them by talking to them and then by SHOWING them and demonstrating His love in very tangible ways.
If we carefully look into the way Jesus Christ "brought up" the disciples to maturity, there is much we can glean for our own lives and style of parenting.
I believe that Jesus MODELED what He wanted us to be like. He didn't just say, "You must do this!" He showed them what obedience and love looked like through EXAMPLE.
That folks, is what WE as parents are called to do! It is a MISSION, and it is not easy!
So HOW can we teach our kids and reflect to them love, kindness, patience, diligence, joy, peacefulness, faithfulness, gentleness, goodness, self control?
WE MODEL IT!ARE WE EXPECTING SOMETHING FROM OUR CHILDREN THAT WE ARE NOT MODELING TO THEM? ARE WE EXPECTING KINDNESS AND PATIENCE WHEN WE ARE IMPATIENT AND UNKIND? Are we expecting them to keep rooms clean when our own room is a mess? (three fingers pointing back at me) :)
It is a HIGH Calling to raise our children and model to them right behavior and lifestyle. And it is one that we will all fail at from time to time, because we are not perfected creatures.
But when we do fail, we can repent, apologize and get back on track.
And we should NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER give up! NEVER EVER! EVER; not on ourselves and not on our children. :)