“I pray because I can't help myself. I pray because I'm helpless. I pray because the need flows out of me all the time- waking and sleeping. It doesn't change God- it changes me.”
― C. S. Lewis
― C. S. Lewis
I believe in the sun even when it's not shining. I believe in love even when I don't feel it. And I believe in God even when He is silent. (quote found on the wall of a concentration camp)
Saturday, March 23, 2013
FIVE YEARS OLD??? SAYS WHO???
I remember when I was a young mother reading parenting books. One in particular stated that if a child isn't Disciplined and correction in place by the age of FIVE years old, it would be a huge problem. They inferred "it is too late".
This person said the personality and character of a child are developed by FIVE!
I cannot tell you how WRONG THIS IS!
The personality a person has THEY ARE BORN WITH!
The trauma they experience may certainly have a huge effect on them, but that is not because they are OVER or UNDER FIVE years of age and FIVE is NOT this magical age where somebody is able to change if they are under five, or not if they are over five. This kind of GARBAGE information is damaging to Children, and ESPECIALLY damaging to waiting orphans whose future parents might decide against adopting somebody older.
Consider the scripture:SAUL became the Apostle PAUL in his adulthood and his life changed forever.
ALL of the disciples were over FIVE!
Doubting Thomas, doubted no more!
Mary Magdalene was changed inside and out!
The demoniac was delivered and changed!
Abram became Abraham!
There are TOO MANY life changes to mention!
So why would somebody say FIVE is the magic age? I HONESTLY DO NOT KNOW!
Children are children and THINK like children. They are NOT mini adults.
If they have been neglected and abused, those life experiences will certainly have an affect upon them whether they are 6 months or 6 years; but it is NOT OVER at FIVE!
Adopting older children has been one of the most rewarding things in our lives! Watching our daughters go from NEGLECT/FEAR to NURTURE/LOVE...... Amazing!
We have had a wonderful day today just watching them blossom. They played, created and just had such a great day.
I do not understand how ANYBODY could say that an older child cannot change.
NOT ONLY CAN THEY.... We have FOUR in THIS household from ALL DIFFERENT backgrounds, countries and traumas, who are THRIVING!
It is NOT LUCK... IT IS NO ACCIDENT.
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE HEALS, UNCONDITIONALLY!