A few weeks ago, my son Joseph called my attention to a book by Kathryn Joyce called, "The Child Catchers: Rescue, Trafficking and the New Gospel of Adoption".
Wow! What a title! I admit that I was intrigued to find out what Ms. Joyce had to say. So, I found the book at 1/2 price books and ordered it.
I am planning to write a few posts regarding this book, so please bear with me.
Let me first say that I was not familiar with Kathryn Joyce. Forgive me if you know her well. Her writing has not crossed my path before, and as I continued to read I could see why.
I must say, I am doing my best to read this book with an open mind, because I think she brings up some very important issues, but her virulent repulsiveness for Christianity comes through loud and clear. Her mocking voice can be heard near and far. And it is honestly, causing me to have a hard time receiving any "truth" she might have to share.
So far, I have made it to the first part of chapter 3, and I can tell you that she is like a dragon slayer, trying to slaughter anybody and everybody with a lens that is not in focus.
You see, Ms. Joyce, from what I can see has no understanding of what true LOVE is. She doesn't get why people would want children that are not wanted elsewhere!
She doesn't get why the church cares about orphans!
She has some valid points in her first chapter about misapplied affections and skirting laws, but her virulent arrogance against anything spiritual just makes her claims fall flat.
Frankly, I agreed with her about the woman who went to Haiti and tried to take children to the Dominican Republic without paperwork. I agree laws must be followed! I agree that Christians, or ANY organization involved in adoption should not skirt the laws, be deceptive, or take children just because they are from poor families..... I get that. And if they break the law, then, let the law take care of that.
I also believe that James 1:27 does not mean to care for the orphan and widow SEPARATELY!
It may mean to care for them TOGETHER, keeping families together!
But my agreement stops there.
I get a strong sense so far, and as I said, I'm only in chapter 3, that Ms. Joyce lacks true understanding when it comes to who an orphan is, and why folks like us adopt them!
Yes, each one of our girls are "social orphans". Each one of them, as far as we know has a living parent or relative!
Ms. Joyce seems to assume that there are parents and relatives ready to jump from the woodwork to take children who have been abandoned or have special needs.
She makes a VERY FATAL mistake here! And I DO SAY FATAL, because many children DIE waiting for somebody to care for them.
In our own home, 2 of our girls were abandoned at birth, willingly, by their biological parents. Neither of our girls were ever visited, even once! Yet, Ms. Joyce would say they are not true orphans.
Would she rather they linger in dying rooms until the inevitable? DEATH?
Does she see this as a better option than adoption? Really?
She doesn't know what she is writing about! I guarantee that! At least not in this area!
She seems to see adoption as a very negative solution, and makes it very clear that it is over simplified and the loss part of the coin is overlooked. I can accept SOME of that sentiment.
Clearly, an adoption takes place because a loss takes place! There is joy and there is loss.
Their is happiness and their is grief.
Yes....these exist and co exist.
To be continued:
“I pray because I can't help myself. I pray because I'm helpless. I pray because the need flows out of me all the time- waking and sleeping. It doesn't change God- it changes me.”
― C. S. Lewis
― C. S. Lewis
I believe in the sun even when it's not shining. I believe in love even when I don't feel it. And I believe in God even when He is silent. (quote found on the wall of a concentration camp)