Somewhere on my blog, I wrote that Alli had told me that she was kept in her room with an alarm on the door because her family was afraid of her.
It is true they were afraid, but it is not true that there was an alarm on her door.
I am not sure how we came to that conclusion with all of our talks, and it could have been that she said she was locked in her room... which I know she did say that.. But there wasn't an alarm.
I want my blog to reflect HONESTY, and I feel badly that this was not accurate.
She told us one time that we had locked her in her room and we had to correct that. There is not even a lock on her door. These are expressions when she is saying how she FEELS....
And it is her perspective.
We had to show her there was no lock, and she went to her room voluntarily. When we showed her there were no locks, she said it "felt" like it. Probably because she wanted to be with us......
Anything I have written has stemmed from HER perspective trying to make sense of her life. She has said she felt that she was treated differently and that is a sore spot for her big time. When she gets dysregulated, here, she will perceive that she is being treated differently and get upset. It is her perspective.
We work hard on these things to straighten them out and many times she will come back and say she is sorry.
We just had a wonderful visit with her sister who shared a room with her. And she confirmed there was not an alarm.
Anyhow, I wanted to correct this. It may not seem a big deal, but it is to me, and it would be to me if I were on the other side of the adoption coin.
“I pray because I can't help myself. I pray because I'm helpless. I pray because the need flows out of me all the time- waking and sleeping. It doesn't change God- it changes me.”
― C. S. Lewis
― C. S. Lewis
I believe in the sun even when it's not shining. I believe in love even when I don't feel it. And I believe in God even when He is silent. (quote found on the wall of a concentration camp)